I would like to address a very good question from "Anonymous" in my comment box: However, there are probably more of you out there wondering the same thing but just don't feel comfortable asking...so here you go: The answer to your question is “ yes of course we have considered adoption. Who goes through infertility all this time and doesn’t question whether or not it is God’s will for us to have children through another way?
Adoption for us is not the direction we feel led to go at this time. We have talked about and prayed about, even filled out the basic application, but we truly don't feel God is leading us there yet. We are completely open to the possibility of adoption, but it is something that is NOT taken lightly and until we both feel that that is what God is moving us towards...we continue to wait...but for us its like this...God allowed us to go through infertility because and easy path to parenthood was not the plan for us. We are waiting, trusting, and following the road He has prepared and for now- that road is not on the path towards adoption. Will it ever turn that direction? I don't know. Possibly, but not yet.
My College Graduate
2 weeks ago
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Hi Sarah,
I just read all your posts, I feel like I'm reading a book and hoping for a happy ending.I'll keep reading till it ends with a miracle baby:)
I'm starting IVF,#1 cycle:)stimulation starts on the 21st of August.
Keep us posted and NEVER GIVE UP.You'll be a MOM one day, just keep your faith.
You are so right, Sarah! It is a deeply personal decision. Sometimes people act as if, since we choose to be open about our struggles with infertility, that they are being let in on the decision-making process. I suppose that sometimes their advice is helpful, but some things are still just up to us! :)
Every aspect of "planning" our families is personal, even though we may choose to share the details with friends and family. I'm behind you (or beside you!) through your journey and understand any decision you all choose! :)
Sarah,
Have I told you lately how proud of you I am? You have been growing into such a strong, determined, open, honest and beautiful young woman. Adversity will always bring out either the best or the worst in us. It is said that the true measure of a person of how they handle the struggles and trials. You, my dear, are learning so many things about yourself and what you are truly made of. Grammie would be so proud too...I was thinking of that the other day as I was praying. (to God, of course...not Grammie) You know, us "Pledger" women are made of pretty tough stuff! Remember, as long as you pray the "prayer that never fails", God will never forsake you! Believe it or not, like Grammie, you are one of my heroes! I love you and my heart is just bursting with pride for who you are and who you are becoming through the grace of God! Your miracle will come! Stay the course and keep the faith!
Still Praying and Believing,
Mom (MPGOAH) ;-)
Horrors!!! I didn't proofread my post and you know I am quite obsessed with grammar and spelling. Allow me to make a tiny correction - ...the true measure of a person IS (not of) how they....
Sorry - thanks.
Giiiiirl dont let none of the "anonymous'" get to you. I say u keep trying until ur wheels fall off!!!! I knew that it wasnt by calling to adopt , that wasnt even an option for me!! Your dream is your own child, and that all these preceding circumstances/obstacles will NOT stand in the way of your dream. Our Faith is in JESUS not in the circumstances/ and prior experiences that we have that say we can't. Many MANY great successes have come from a multitute of failures..so u are in great company!!! Dont waver , dont give in , your time is here and your time is now ..hey if we dont ourselves have tenacious faith who will do it for us ???Definitely not the "anonymous"..love you girl and stay strong in HIM!!!!!!
I had to add this because God told me this when I felt I just couldnt take anymore of the pain.."FIGHT THE GOOD FIGHT OF FAITH"...a fight isnt painless! A fight is just that a fight! - its not easy, u get war wounds but he promises us that if we see that fight through the end we WILL get the victory!!! He will and has never left us , I just praise God for ur triumphs to come!!
Very well said Sarah. This whole journey is a process that needs to be walked at a personal pace. What's right for one may not be right for you, or maybe in just a different timeframe.
I totally agree with your last statement about when to give up. I've said that many times myself, when the pain of giving up is less than trying again, I will then give up.
I have been reading your blog for a few weeks now and really enjoy it. My husband and I have been going through infertility issues for a little over a year now and are "forced" in a good way to take off from all the craziness. About a month again I was told that I was non immune to rubella. This could cause birth defects in a baby so I got my shot a month ago and we will begin In-vitro in October. I am super nervous but extremely excited at the same time! You are right Sara it is a personal decision and I look up to your courage and strength. I will continue to pray for you and hope that we keep in contact. Have a great week and keep your head up girl!
Jessica
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You said it girl!! I know that I do give advice, but I would never give advice on when to give up or even ask someone why they won't just.....
It is all such a personal choice and I believe that we should just root for each other instead of asking innappropriate questions. So anonymous...if you are out there. Enough is only enough when Sarah feels it is enough!!!!
Love you Sarah!
Well stated! You are an amazing person following your dreams. I wish you all the best and wonderful years ahead!
Well stated! You are an amazing person following your dreams. I wish you all the best and wonderful years ahead!
Hang in there girlie...the decision to continue fertility treatments or to stop and take other avenues is something that plagues so many of us. But I truly believe that you'll know when He's ready for you to know. If it's not in your heart, then it's not in His plan.
Obviously adoption is not meant for everyone and should never be the "Plan B" for having children. I'm a social worker and one of the things we do is talk in-depth with couples who have experienced infertility because that couple has to be absolutely sure they are ready to move forward with adoption. I respect you greatly for being honest and sharing your reasons with others. I know that your words have helped others experiencing the same things. I do want to add that adoption is certainly not "the easy way" to have kids! LOL! Although my youngest (from China) told me that she doesn't want a baby in her belly but that she wants to fly to China and get a baby "the easy way" like I did...she's a character.
You do whatever you and your husband feel is the right way for you. I didn't give up. A lot of women don't give up and they end up with a baby in the end. You will know when it is time. God will let you know. My prayers are that He will never let you give up and you don't have to take that route. But if you do, then that is where you belong. Good luck to you and know we are all here with you during this difficult time.
Hugs,
Kami
I hate it when people ask, "have you thought about adoption?" It's as if there are no other choices out there. A friend of mine, who's known since she was 16 that she couldn't have kids of her own (and now has 3 adopted kids) said one of the adoption counselors at the beginning asked her and her DH if they were done greiving the loss of the baby they couldn't have together. You have to get to that point. You are not to that point. I'm not to that point. Good luck with the next path you choose. God will bless you!
I completely agree with you. We have been trying for 3+ years, with 6 failed procedures, but I cannot imagine stopping...yet. As long as God is guiding your heart and your path, you know you are doing the right thing. Good luck, sweetie!
I completely agree with you. We have been trying for 3+ years, with 6 failed procedures, but I cannot imagine stopping...yet. As long as God is guiding your heart and your path, you know you are doing the right thing. Good luck, sweetie!
I wanted you to know that I thought about you this morning during our church service...Check out my post when you get a minute...I heard the best sermon EVER...I swear it was meant for you and I!
http://growingourowngarden.blogspot.com/2009/08/hope.html
Very well said! It's none of anyone's business, but you and your husband what you plan to do. All we can do is pray for you all and support you in whatever decision you make. You are so strong and I admire you so much!
This post really hit home for me and it's something I have contemplated a lot. And like you said, it is a personal decision and there is truly no right or wrong answer. You must continue to do what you feel led to do.
I pray for you and your husband that you get your happy ending soon. :-D
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